A small fish in a small pond
The problem with the media - especially social media - is not the time we spend on our screens but that it sells us a dream we obsess over. We want that ideal life. A big life! And so we chase it and, in the process, often commit self-harm.
Because, in chasing dreams of a big life, we easily tear the fabric that keeps us happy - family and friends. We choose the big stuff and sacrifice the small connections around us.
Someone asked on Twitter whether it is better to be a small fish in a big pond or a big fish in a small pond. It's cliched, but it made me realise that I'm a small fish in a small pond!
I run a small business in a small market at the southern tip of Africa.
But what if small allows us to be genuinely connected? If small can mean being deeply in touch with our environment and part of the fabric of society - then small is strong! This strength is not only relevant to our social lives but business too. Maybe being connected is more important than the size of the pond?
I'm not saying don't go big. By all means, go live in a global capital, work for a worldwide brand and earn an international salary. Be ambitious! But don't confuse size with strength. A power move may leave you exposed at the flanks of life. Lonely, under-supported and generally unhappy.
We undervalue knowing the lay of the land. A small fish, in a small pond, knows every nook and cranny. Maybe we should think twice before pursuing our big dream!